I’ve worked part time for the last 13 years of my life. I have never, ever had a full time job. I’ve held a lot of different jobs and I’ve done a lot of under the table work. Babysitting, editing, cleaning, catering, paid internships…the list seems endless! I’ve never been afraid of work and I’ve always been money conscious. What are my major take aways from the last 13 years though?
I come from a single income, single parent household. Growing up my family didn’t have a ton money to burn so anything ‘fun’ that I wanted for myself has to come out of my own pockets. Trips to the mall or movie theater were not funded by the Bank of Mom.
My very first job was a at a local farm in my hometown. My grandmother would pick me up at 7am and drive me to the farm. I worked there for about 6 hours a day. Let me tell you: that was work. Farm life is hard labor! I picked strawberries by hand, weeded gardens and fertilized young pine trees. All at age 14. (I have to say, that job has given me a huge appreciation for the work that migrant farmers and workers do. What I did was just a fraction of their actual day and I have my white passing privilege to shield me from racist stereotypes too.)
After a summer on the farm I worked at Market Basket, a discount grocery store in the northeast. Then I worked as a waitress in a retirement home (for an hourly wage, no tips). I babysat, I did lawn work. I have always been trying to make money. When I got to college one of the first things I dd was secure my work study job at the campus box office. I kept that job all four years and senior year picked up two more: grocery store clerk/cashier and coffee shop barista.
Since graduating college and moving to Austin I’ve worked as a waitress, a receptionist, a caterer, a nanny, a researcher and a fundraiser. I still to this day have never had a full time job. As long time readers know I had five part time jobs earlier this year! Right now I can claim three part time jobs, a situation that will probably continue into 2016.
So, what has this long list of jobs taught me?
You have to get outside of your comfort zone. I hate the food service industry at this point but working in restaurants and in catering has taught me SO MUCH. I’ve learned time management skills, how to prioritize work needs, how to speak and work with other people, how to organize groups of people, how to share detailed information with a large group…the list goes on.
Challenging yourself doesn’t always mean working a job you don’t really like. It also means pushing yourself to do more. It means striving. It means learning new things that you may struggle with for awhile, so that in the end you become a stronger and more capable person. Challenge yourself to become the best worker you can. Talk to people if you’re shy. Take a course and beef up your resume. Learn to code on the internet. Don’t be afraid of new opportunities!
You Need Balance
If you’re working multiple jobs you NEED to find balance. I’ve been both luck and unlucky that a lot of my work can be done from home. That means knowing when to consider my house my home and when to consider it my office. I have to balance work with the rest of my life. Picking up a 9 hour catering shift every Saturday means that I don’t have the time to spend with my friends who only have free time on the weekends. There’s a balance to be found between making money and living life. Having a nontraditional schedule is in some ways freeing and in some ways quite restrictive. You have to live within those boundaries and find joy in your life.
I also need balance in my work schedule. I need to be able to find the discipline to sit down and get it all done. I need to be able to spend an hour on this project, an hour on another and also find time to take that phone meeting.
Understand You Can Do It
I’ve been scared to start every job I’ve ever gotten. From waiting tables to interning in Washington DC to starting at my current non profit job, it’s all been brand new territory. It’s so important to remember that I am a smart, hard working person who can handle myself. I might have a few rough days or a settling in period but I can and will find my footing.
Sometimes the work is not glamourous. When I was struggling emotionally and financially last winter-summer, I picked up a receptionist job that was 10.5 hours a week for $9 an hour. It wasn’t really any money, it wasn’t a position that would lead anywhere. It was terrible hours (5:15am-10:15 am on Mondays and Fridays). It was a nothing job really.
I needed the routine though. I needed the money. I needed to remind myself that I was capable of getting up, going to work somewhere and doing the things they asked of me. That job helped me remember that I have value and that I could do something. It helped get me up in the morning and try to use my days to get to a better position. (Which I did!)
There is an inherent risk in putting yourself into a new position. Challenging yourself or redefining yourself is hard work. But you can do it. You have the wherewithal. You have the ability. You have the strength to weather the changes and emerge on the other side. Reminding myself of that when a new project or opportunity comes up is one of the most important things I do for myself.
Working for so long and in such a fractured way is my normal. I’ve never worked in an office, never had a 9-5 workday. At this point I don’t even know if I’d be comfortable doing that! While I certainly want to make more money and I would love to be able to get to the point where one job sustains me, I like the flexibility and autonomy that my part time jobs allow me.
For now I’m just taking these lessons to heart and learning more every day. Do you have any tips from your own work experience?