It’s been a week of deep thoughts over here in the ATX. I’ve been spending a lot of time planning an upcoming trip to Big Bend National Park with some friends, thinking about 2016 and calculating my income for 2015. As y’all know, I’ve been doing a lot of reflecting in general lately. Lots of navel gazing happening.
‘What would you do if you knew you could not fail?’ It’s a question I ask myself regularly. I believe really strongly that you should pursue the life you want with everything you have. We live in a world where very few people are able to do that. Privilege- be it financial, racial, geographic or whatever- plays a very real role in everyone’s destinies. Not everyone gets the chance to try for their dreams. If you have that chance I believe you should take it.
I began to grab at a dream of mine last September when I decided to get out of debt. I was only partially employed and knew nothing about money or how to handle it. I saw that dream come true this past June.
Becoming debt free gave me a brand new lease on life. That’s not an exaggeration. I knew myself in a new and better way and I knew more about what I wanted from the world. The question ‘what would you do if you knew you could not fail?’ took on a whole new context. I had already succeeded at something that the year before had seemed impossible. Nothing was really impossible. It was only a matter of choosing what to do and then doing that thing.
That sounds simplistic. That sounds ignorant, on some level. There are day to day concerns and big picture issues that may prevent some people from going after their biggest, wildest dream. I want to be sensitive to that. Again, privilege plays a big role here.
For me though- a white-passing, college educated, debt free, healthy and childless young woman- I have the chance to go after my biggest dream. I have the ability to do so as well. I also now have the drive.
Now, everyone knows my biggest dream is to be financially independent.
But really, it’s more than that.
The thing is, there are many things I want from my life. I want my own home. I want to do long term and slow travel. I want to write a book. I want to hike various through hikes in the world. I want to learn another language. I want to sleep late. I want read. I want to binge watch tv or see three movies in a day.
Looking at that list there is one thing in common: independence. It is my firm belief that this is my life and I will live it however I want. I like being able to do my own thing as much as possible. Even when my own thing is something in step with the rest of the world it’s incredibly important to me that I have control over my choices and actions. I am deeply averse to doing things ‘because I should’ or because another person wants me to.That’s not a reason to me. That’s a form of control over my life and I will not yield that control.
For example, travel and writing are hugely important to me. I want to be able to write what I want from where I want. What I don’t want is to have to depend on that writing making me money. Money for writing would be great! I don’t want to have to meet deadlines to have to pay the rent though. I don’t want to have to crank out 10,000 words on a topic I hate to get health care paid off each month. I want to create at my own pace and know that I won’t go hungry for doing so.
Achieving financial independence is the best way for me to get everything I want in life. Once I am FI I can head off to Argentina and write the great American novel. I can spend six months hiking the Appalachian trail and not have a boss breathing down my neck. I can spend an entire weekend in my own home and not have to put on pants at any point!
I’ve started to work towards my biggest dream. It’s a long road to FI but I’m already on it. It’s a long way off but as another great saying goes ‘Nothing great ever came easy.’ I am more than willing to chase after this dream for the next thirteen years. It’s the thing I want most in the world. If I’m not doing that what the hell am I doing with my time?
Kara Perez is the original founder of From Frugal To Free. She is a money expert, speaker and founder of Bravely Go, a feminist financial education company. Her work has been featured on NPR, Business Insider, Forbes, and Elite Daily.
9 Replies to “Going After Your Biggest Dream”
Love how you framed all of this — going for your dreams. I am super risk-averse by nature, so the answers to “what would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?” are a lot different from what I’m actually doing with my life. That’s a huge part of why we have such a detailed early retirement plan — I have to be sure I have 5000 backup options and a bunch of different things in place before I’d even think about quitting my job! Something I’m working on. 🙂
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Kara, I have really enjoyed reading both this post and your About page. You are saying all of the things that I believe in, very deeply. Kudos to you for getting past your student debt! Even more importantly, you’ve figured out how being debt free will indeed make you free in so many ways. That’s something many people never figure out. I look forward to following you on your journey!
Thanks Ann! I appreciate your support and love finding like minded people. We have a pretty cool community here in the pf blogosphere and I’m always so trilled to ‘meet’ and other member.
I think it’s awesome that you are going for FI, but don’t let all your dreams wait. Writing the great American novel takes time, not money. Someday soon, you can choose to cater less and write more. You can choose to take a vacation or not. Of course every choice matters on the path to FI, but every choice matters to your life now too.
Thanks for saying that. Remembering to live in the now and celebrate my daily life is really hard for me. I can’t keep putting things off and telling myself ‘someday’ when I have today.
This resonates so deeply. Similar list of dreams, similar desire for independence. Whenever there is a values list or values test, independence is always my my #1 – either by choice or by the test’s calculation. I love the question, too. A friend gave me a mug that has the question on it. Instead of drink from it, I keep it on my bookshelf. I glance at it often.
I want that mug. I love that you keep it on your bookshelf. A daily dose of inspiration. Independence is crucial to me. I have to know I can take care of myself and that I have the room to be myself. It’s a very big part of my dream.
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